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Here I offer some ideas that may or may not be wholly accurate, so I am putting them forth merely as opinions. You can decide how you feel about this important challenge, since women have been over-communicative about their feelings, but also sometimes inaccurate on the subject. Often, I have observed that some women speak from their inner emotional center without considering other implications, such as how others feel about what they say, so here goes:
It seems to me that social verbal conversation is highly valued by most women. I think that they need to get personal acknowledgment through that verbalization. Other forms of connection are lovemaking and creative expression, such as performances of various kinds. I believe that emotional closeness and sexual intimacy have the highest value to them. When they are in a supportive, loving relationship, stress is minimal and their energy is heightened. If they also feel safe or protected, they become even happier and more self-confident. This personal confidence does not mean that feelings are denied and does not even exclude the possibility of self-doubt or fear. What it does is generate a "can-do" attitude which is quite enabling socially as well as professionally. It enables them to feel empowered to deal with almost any situation, especially if their significant other is supportive of their needs and desires at all levels.
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This does not necessarily mean that their love partner has to be diminished in any way at all; in fact, most women take great pride in the accomplishments of their partners, especially when each mirrors the other's personality in a non-threatening manner. They need the relationship to be strongly based upon trust, and preserving that trust necessarily becomes paramount to both partners.
For eons down through history, self-confidence has been mostly the province of men, and they became the protectors of the "weaker" woman. Now that women are descending from that oh so comfortable pedestal, many men have begun to feel somehow threatened by strong women, causing them to become somewhat defensive or passive-aggressive, instead of feeling strengthened by a relationship with a woman who has strong self-confidence of her own. They often retreat into their chauvinistic refuge and cower there. It takes a really strong man to deal with a strong woman, and I am talking about courage and not muscle here. It takes courage to remain vulnerable with a strong woman, but there are rewards as the relationship matures in trust, dependability and, of course, love.
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